I heard it again today: "What do you do all day....besides school?"
I almost said: "You've GOT to be kidding."
I'm curious. Does this get said to full time teachers? Does this get said to mothers of toddlers? I'm thinking not. For some reason, the fact that I have one child who is almost 10, I homeschool, and do not work out of the house (apparently my 15 yrs of part time work with The Corporate Man doesn't count for anything at this juncture) confuses some people into thinking that I do NOT have a life.
Is not parenting/homeschooling considered fulfilling enough? We've chosen, at this point in our lives, for me not to have to work so I can be home with Ms. D. Thankfully, my husband is successful enough to support that. It wasn't always the case, and will not always be the case. We have planned this time for our daughter. People think NOTHING of asking this question in all seriousness. While I KNOW that in ALL cases of this being said it was meant in complete innocence and sincerity. Today it was with my best interests in mind. It was said because I had expressed a feeling of being overwhelmed, a little 'venting' if you will. The person who asked this question,wanted, no doubt, to make sure I had outside interests and thinks I could do as stress relief and I do appreciate that.
Recently we had a family conversation about the fact we were doing to much. We have such a wide variety of interests and time to explore them during the day. We're often out and about driving hither and yon. I was feeling like we weren't getting enough "home" time. But apparently that home time is seen as a bit dangerous for me if I am venting about being "overwhelmed." In retrospect, I should've laughed and said "We do TOO much and that is why I am overwhelmed!
I think, very often in our society staying home with one's child is seen as something overwhelming and stress causing. Don't get me wrong, being home isn't all sweetness and light. It is difficult. So can being away from your home all day working full or part time. Each is stressful in different ways, but I resent being looked upon pityingly for choosing to be home. It has a VERY different vibe than being looked at pityingly for trying to hold down a full time job and being a mom.
Perhaps I will keep a copy of my schedule for people to peruse when they say "What do you do?" to give them some ideas of how full my life is. Or perhaps I will rebutt with saying "Well, what do YOU do?"
The whole phrase "...what else do you do...?" just leaves me in a fit of pique.
*This has been your monthly rant. We return you to your regularly scheduled blog.*